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Wednesday, July 18, 2012

2nd Annual Carl Grisa Open Golf Event announced

On Sunday, August 19, 2012, Carl Grisa's co-workers from when he worked at Arandell Corporation are hosting a golf event, the 2nd annual Carl Grisa Open.  The proceeds from this event will help fund college for Carl's four children.

Carl Grisa

Golfing T-off time will be 1:00 PM, (golfers could arrive around 12:30).  Golfing may go as late as 4:00, and then Dinner will follow. (Non-golfers can show up anytime, or perhaps around 3:00 PM to welcome the golfers.)

The location: 
The Ironwood Golf Course, 
W270 N6166 Moraine Drive, 
Sussex, WI, 53089.

Here are some details:
  • $45/person includes 9 Holes of Golf, Cart and Dinner
  • Over $1,000 in raffle and hole prizes, including a 50/50 raffle.

To reserve your spot, or donate items for the raffle, or to sponsor a hole ($100 each) please call….
Scott Conway
(262-309-5964) or
Stacie Pike (262-255-4400 ext. 280)


Thursday, December 15, 2011

Carl Grisa's obituary

Carl Eric Grisa
March 25, 1963 - December 13, 2011

Carl Eric Grisa passed away peacefully on Tuesday, December 13, 2011, at the age of 48 years due to cancer. Carl was the cherished husband of Jeanne Selep for 26 years; the loving dad of Thomas Grisa, Anthony Grisa, Nathan Grisa and Miranda Grisa; and the son of Frank L. Grisa (married to Rose Grisa).  Carl was the brother to Heidi Surprenant (Mike), Gregg Grisa, Mark Grisa (Mary); Frank Grisa (Janice), Duran Grisa (Shirley) and Dale Grisa (Kathy).  Carl is survived by many nieces and nephews, cousins, friends and relatives. 

Carl worked in the printing industry for years, most recently at Arandell Company. He was a member of Crossroads Presbyterian Church. Carl's hobbies included his children, scouting, rockets, cars, listening to music and cooking. 

Funeral information:
Friday, Dec. 16, 2011
Crossroads Presbyterian Church,  
6031 West Chapel Hill Road, Mequon, WI

Visitation from 4:00-6:00 PM, 
Funeral service at 6:00 PM, 
Reception to follow.

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Nobody Won

Carl Grisa finished his fight against cancer on Tuesday, Dec 13, 2011.  Carl died, and the sarcoma died with him.  Nobody won.  He is in a better place now, without the cancer, BUT I WILL MISS HIM for the rest of my life. 

Carl Grisa, 1992
Friday, Dec 16, 2011 we will have a service for Carl Grisa at Crossroads Presbyterian Church.  There will be a closed casket visitation from 4:00 to 6:00 PM, Funeral Service from 6:00 to 7:00 PM and a Reception to follow.  More details to follow.

Carl Grisa as I will remember him, 2007
The cancer altered Carl's appearance.  I hope the children will remember him as he was before cancer.

Our last family photo, 2011


Monday, November 28, 2011

November 2011

November 2011 brought colder weather and some cold rainy days.  November was quieter then preceding months - for one thing Carl stopped going to work.  Despite the wheelchair for mobility, Carl's energy has continued to decline, and not working is one way to conserve his remaining energy. 
Carl and some of his co-workers
So some of Carl's coworkers came and visited Carl.  They told me that the music around the office has changed somewhat without Carl helping with the selections.  Not for the better, Carl is guessing.

Carl's nephew came into town with his first child - Carl's first great-niece Emily.  Carl's experience with 4 children had little Emily smiling in his arms. 
Carl, his sister, Emily and Emily's family

A highlight of November was going to our Church's "Great Getaway" retreat weekend in Green Lake Wisconsin from November 11 to November 13, 2011.  Crossroad Presbyterian Church has had an annual retreat in November for many years, and our family has enjoyed going.  (I think our family has gone at least four times.)  The retreat is just people from our church (and the speakers), and so the participants can end up getting to know each other very well.  For this weekend the sun came out and the weather was great.  Carl and I were really hoping we could go as a family, and we surprised many people when we did.  Carl was really tired after that weekend, of course.  
Dinner with adults at the Church retreat
Our Family at the Church Retreat

Thanksgiving Day was a laid back day with the family and wonderful food.  The children's Thanksgiving break was 6 days long, starting on Tuesday and going through Sunday.  We watched a lot of TV and it was kind of noisy at the house. 
Thanksgiving Dinner at our house

In spite of Carl's cancer, we feel we have so much to be thankful for.  But I guess I'll leave that for another post.  I hope you had a great Thanksgiving. 


Sunday, November 27, 2011

October 2011 update

October 2011 seems to have come and gone very quickly.  One of the highlights in October for our family was seeing Anthony Grisa, our sophomore, in the play play "The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe" put on by Homestead High School. Carl and the family went to all three performances. 
Carl and the kids (and my sister Roseann) at the show
In the play "The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe" Anthony was a monster in the witches army.  Anthony has never survived the fall plays he has been in.  Anthony "died" in this play (once), and as a Freshman last year in 2010, Anthony "died" three times in the Homestead play "The Odyssey".   

Other October highlights were the Boys Scout chili cook-off (October 11, 2011), a dinner for a friend from Italy at my brother's house, (October 16, 2011), and Miranda's Cross Country Banquet (October 17, 2011), and eating out with friends. 
Our family of six at Francesca's dinner

Carl's started working on a rocket kit at home, his most ambitious rocket kit to date. (Carl has had a lifelong hobby of making rockets and launching them.)  The kit Carl is working on now is for show only, he doesn't plan on launching it.
Carl working on his Saturn 5 Rocket Kit
Carl went to work at Arrandell many days in October, and had a Pet Scan and MRI's, but no Chemotherapy.  The oncologist decided that the chemotherapy was only making Carl sick.  Carl started using a wheel chair in October, and we learned just how surprisingly unsuited our house was for a wheelchair.  For example, the smallest size wheel chair doesn't really fit trough the standard sized door into our bathroom, and turning in the hall is very difficult. 

Next post - November... 

Monday, October 31, 2011

Incredible Support

Carl has been going through a lot, obviously.  One thing I have not really gone into on this blog is the incredible amount of help and support we have received from many sources.

Our church family, friends, relatives, Carl's coworkers, and even complete strangers have helped our family in many ways throughout 2010 and 2011.

Carl and his Pricing Analyst Co-workers.
People have helped our family by watching our children, transporting our children,transporting Carl, praying for Carl and our family, bringing us meals, visiting Carl at home and in the hospital, giving us treats and gift cards, helping us with yard work and home repair, fixing our cars, and more.

I want to say a big Thank You for all the support. 

I remember a story about Saint Patrick - were one of the most powerful ways of saying Thank You was to say "Thanks be to God";
so I say "Thanks be to God" to all of you.

In September 2011, Carl's co-workers held a golf tournament fund raiser, which I blogged about here.  I never wrote about another large fund raiser picnic that Carl's co-workers organized and held on June 3, 2011, and so today I wanted to rectify that.  Both events had many things in common, but both days stand out as days of exceptionally nice weather;   "God Blessed" Days.
Chris, Carl and Scott, the Pricing Analysts
(Pricing Analyst is Carl's Job title)

It was very odd to be half of the focus of the fund raiser like the Arandell folk held.  I remember trying to gear up to not cry at the picnic.  I never thought that I might someday be the recipient of such goodwill, assistance, charity?  It was an unfamiliar situation.  I don't know if I was too unemotional, if I was shaky, if I seemed too party like.  Suddenly you are at the center of attention, where people are giving generously of their time and money and support.  The Arrandell event was even more emotional - many of the people there were strangers to me, but good friends of Carl.  I had heard stories about some of these people over the years.  I wanted to make a good impression, and convey gratitude, remember people's names, and not cry.   

Usually I take pictures at an event, happy to enjoy things from behind a camera lens.  It didn't seem right to snap a lot of photos at a fund raiser for our family, so I only took a handful of shots at the end of the picnic.
I'm going to tell my children Carl flies kites at work.
Here are Carl and his co-workers, flying kites.

Chris, Carl and Scott, the Pricing Analysts
This photo makes me laugh. It reminds me of taking pictures of my children.  People goofing off and only one person is looking at the camera.

The money raised at the fund raiser picnic really helped my family financially and with medical bills.  The money raised at the golf outing was raised for my children's college education.  For both fund raisers, I want to say, "Thank You, and Thanks be to God".

I want to say Thank You as well to the people who spent a ton of time organizing both events.  I don't have a photo of you - but I really want to say THANK YOU for all the effort both events required.  I have volunteered for many things over the years and know how a small project grows and doesn't always fit seamlessly into a schedule the way you hoped it would.  Thanks again, and Thank you to everyone who has been helping my family, in any way, big or small.


Saturday, October 22, 2011

End of September update

After the 17th dose of chemotherapy, (infusion Sept 7-8, 2011) Carl had a rough time regaining his equilibrium and energy.  He didn't go to work for nearly two weeks after the infusion.  This chemotherapy round was probably the hardest for Carl.  It does not help that Carl's left leg has become unable to bear weight.  Carl walks with a walker or crutches at all times now.

On Monday September 12, 2011, Carl's dad and mom came for a visit from Michigan.

Carl, Carl's dad Frank, and Carl's sister Heidi

We had a family pizza party and we took a group photo.

We also took a quick family photo, shown below.  Left to right, Miranda (12 years old), Anthony (15 years old), Nathan (13 years old) and Tom (17 years old).  Carl and I are in the front.

Later in the same week Carl's brother Greg came to town for a visit, on the way to visit Carl's Dad.  

On Monday, September 26, 2011, Carl started his 18th course of Chemotherapy with a 24 hour infusion of Trabectedin, (also called Yondelis).  Again, he stayed overnight at Froedtert to get this infusion, and came home Tuesday.  On Wednesday September 28, 2011 Carl got a Nuelasta shot.   

Carl was determined that this course would not knock him out like round 17 had, and he was able to recover better.  He actually felt like working, and building models, etc.

Carl got some interest in cooking back, here is his first attempt  at a French baguette.  Carl's hair does not seem to be falling out with the latest chemotherapy drugs. 

Carl Grisa
Carl making French Baguettes

In the back of the photo above you can see a odd gadget on the counter.  The photo at the left is a close up.  The item is Carl's favorite cooking gadget, the "Thermo-Pen".  It's probably his favorite cooking toy (of many).